We had three gardens left to see as I toured with Ann’s garden club from Vancouver, Washington.
Next was Jo’s garden, always a big favourite on a garden tour. Ann had seen it before but agreed that it was even better this year.
I have seen over and over how joyous expressions accompany Jo’s garden.
A suspenseful situation was brewing while we were at Jo’s. The next garden was to be Gene’s garden, and because of the story of how it had been created by him and his late wife Peggy, it mattered to me greatly that he be there. There is something that happens after a garden tour if you are going through a hard time in life. The tour preparation can be very absorbing and distracting, and the tour day is an exhilarating high…and then one crashes and reality sets in. This happened to my friends Tom and Judy when their garden was on tour while he was going through chemo. Right after the tour, reality hit them with a thud. (I am happy to say he is fine over a year later!) The same happened to Gene: the let down after tour day and all the memories that he was able to share about Peggy’s garden. I knew having Ann’s club come through the garden would be a pick me up, just as it was last year for Tom and Judy. So I called him as soon as we got to Jo’s to say we would be at his home in about half an hour. He told me there was a problem: he had to meet briefly with an engineer. He’s the Long Beach City Administrator so has many responsibilities. I decided (conspiring with Ann) that I had to delay the tour, somehow, even though the garden club members were getting hungry…so after Jo’s, I took them next door to see the garden at the Boreas Inn, just two doors north. The beautiful interior of the inn (which we walked through) and the gardens on the west side between the inn and the dunes kept them occupied for a little while longer. I was so anxious about timing that I forgot to take any photos of them there.
After that, I could delay no longer and we went to the south end of Long Beach to Gene’s garden: The Peggy Miles Memorial Garden. Gene had not yet returned…
Ok, if he could not meet them, I decided I would at least have a photo for him, and I gathered the club members in the courtyard. (They had already oohed and ahed over its every detail.)
But then, as they began to leave the courtyard, I had an idea. I did not want them to miss the essence of this garden, so I called to Ann to get them to wait while I looked something up on my iPhone. Of course, it took a long time to load…and I could not find the photo that I needed on Facebook…and then I remembered Debbie Teashon’s beautiful article about the garden on her website, Rainyside.com. I knew the photo was there…and it loaded. So I exerted all my crowd control and gathered the ladies back into the courtyard. I said, “You must hear these words to understand this garden completely. This was what Gene wrote and had on a display of photos of Peggy and her garden for the guests to read on tour day.” And I read from my little phone screen, somehow without crying:
The garden club was so moved, all were misty eyed, and one was weeping. They expressed awe at how beautifully written the words were. We then went around to the front of the townhouse so I could get one last photo of the group for Gene.
One group member said she was still crying. As I took the photo…he drove up! You can see the members of the club turning their heads as his car turns into the drive.
My mission was complete, and there was a little time for visiting. Gene was told how much they appreciated what he wrote, and that they were not sure all husbands would do the same for their wives. The mood was lightened when I said that is exactly what had been heard on tour day: Women saying “I don’t think my husband would do this for me!” Gene spoke of how he had gone to grief counseling and learned that you really do not “get over” such a loss, and it is okay, or good, to not get over it. (Who would want to “get over” someone they loved?)
After that, we had only my garden to walk through.
We walked round all the beds and talked plant talk. The garden club is comprised of women who, I realized when I rode around with them, talk of country clubs and travel at an economic level that is miles beyond my working class life, but they have just as much interest in a good garden attached to a humble “double wide trailer” as they do in a fine garden in a gated community like Butterfly Shores. I like that.
And then they all departed to have their lunch, with lots of appreciation for their tour day, leaving me with the late afternoon and evening to do my own preparations for the edible garden tour which would be just four days hence.